TRUTH drop blog

Why…do…people…choose to lie? WHY lie about the silliest things?! Do people not understand the ramifications of even the tiniest lie? Don’t they understand that the truth would more than likely get them further, than it would actually take away from them by lying?

I can not help but believe; anyone who is willing to stand behind a white lie….will surely coward behind the big lies. I recently had someone lie to me about the stupidest thing. In my mind I thought, “If this person is willing to lie to me about something like this…then really….is their intention actually bigger because they felt like they needed to lie about THIS?”

The sad part is, this person still has no clue that I even know that they lied or what they lied about. This person is just acting as if life is grand and all is ok. While I’m sitting over here questioning EVERY single thing about them. Sure people lie to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, or maybe to minimize arguments. Whatever it may be. But, it still does not make it ok. All anyone truly wants is honesty. For instance if I ask someone if something looks good on me and they say it does….when in reality it doesn’t fit me right, or it just doesn’t really compliment my body, my skin tone, my lip stick shade…yet they lie and say “yeah looks great.” That’s not what I want, and that’s not really taking the “nicer” route. That lie could humiliate me because people can be so mean. And, some days, I do take other peoples opinions quite literally. Some days I honestly don’t care what anyone thinks. However, if I ask for someone’s honesty I truly expect it from them. Even if I don’t always like their response. I’m sure MANY people can agree with me on that too.

This lie that this person told me though, has really thrown me off completely!!! Now that lie is leaving me with dozens of questions roaming through my mind. If they had been honest, ok fine, the truth may have hurt a little… But it would not have “hurt” like this.

Especially when second chance(s) have been given to them before, to do better. Yet still, they choose to lie about the littlest things.

It makes no sense? The fact that people are literally ok and totally willing to sacrifice all the trust, and security with a person who they love?! The fact they’re willing to sacrifice a family member, friendships, or relationships all together…just to protect their own ego?! It’s just so sad to me. Truly.

People would rather carry the burden of lies, than to say “Hey, here’s the truth.” If you’re reading this and you’re thinking the truth does not sound better…Then perhaps you should ask yourself if the person you’re lying to or have lied to….. really means anything to you? Because if they did matter…you would not feel the need to lie In the first place! Read that again.

Do people truly like being questioned after they’ve been caught in a lie though? That’s what I want to know. I feel like when I’ve questioned this specific individual in the past…it kinda puts them in a bad mood once they’re confronted. So…why even put yourself in the position, if you don’t like it?

Do people really enjoy pushing the ones they “love” away too? It’s like some people don’t understand that when you lie continuously, trust goes out the door. Poof. Gone. Destroyed. You don’t just repeatedly do the same thing over and over again to hurt the ones you love. Then expect things to go back to normal. It doesn’t work that way.

Bottom line…just be honest. Always.

When you tell the truth it saves you the headache, and questions. When you tell the truth, you’ll probably receive a little more respect and a lot more understanding in the long run!

Be the person who is honest when someone asks you if the dress or the pants are too tight.

Be the person who chooses to be honest, even when being honest is hard.

Be the person who gives someone else the ability to trust again.

Be vulnerable enough to be honest with yourself…so that you can take accountability when you need to!

Say you’re sorry if you’re wrong. Especially if you love the people in your life.

If you mess up, just admit it. Mistakes happens. Don’t be so selfish that you choose to lie out of fear of what you’ll lose. Because it’s not truly up to you to decide how bad your actions have hurt someone else.

In my opinion….You could lose a lot more by a lie, than you could by telling the truth.

Stay humble! Be kind! Love always! And just tell the freakin truth y’all! Lol 👌🖤😊😘